I'm Not A Beautiful Wife

Thoughts from riffing off my high-school feminist anthem, "Not a Pretty Girl" by Ani DiFanco

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There’s a cliché that pops up in too many eulogies and tributes for married women: “beautiful wife” - and then tying for my second least favourite, “dutiful daughter” and “devoted mother.”

And while I understand the sentiment and appreciate the intention, I want to make one thing very clear to my husband, friends, and loved ones—when the time…